Marriage + Partnership is a challenge…
especially when one person is doing all the housework.
I get it. You’re responsible for it all.
You’re the default house + schedule + everything manager.
You anticipate everyone else’s needs + feelings.
No one seems to value or respect your time.
You do all the unseen, unacknowledged daily tasks.
You’re starting to ruminate, feel resentment, and whole lotta irritation.
Have you been wishing others would help more?
Are you unsure of how to start the conversation around sharing the load?
Your home is more than logistics + to-do’s.
Your family has a shared purpose + path.
When everyone contributes, everyone benefits.
What I’ve discovered…
Over the last handful of years, my husband and I have equitably divided our household + parenting responsibilities. It wasn’t always that way.
Early in our marriage he was traveling and working long hours. I was the default parent to our 3 kids and was the primary household manager.
As the kids became involved in more activities and I returned to work, sharing the load became a necessity.
Now we take it one task, one kid, one week,
one conversation at a time.
I guide you both step-by-step through The Fair Play Method.
Step 1: Recognize Your Chore Gap
If you’re doing more chores, care tasks, and responsibilities than you’d like, let’s talk.
If you feel that your partner is missing out and your time could be valued more, let’s talk.
If you want more time for adult friendships, self-care, and personal passions, let’s talk.
Step 2: Customize Your Deck + System
Start by communicating differently. Invite your partner to play, then check in, one conversation at a time.
Set the ground rules + decide a handful of tasks to divide up. Discuss why they matter to your household.
Establish a Minimum Standard of Care for basic tasks. (Don’t assume your sense of “clean” is their “clean.”)
I help you stop keeping score and reconnect to your family’s shared purpose.
Step 3: Play To Win
You’ll spend time discussing the humanity + value behind essential tasks. You’ll understand each other at a deeper level.
You’ll reach equity not equality which is the goal. You won’t expect a 50/50 task split.
You’ll each hold a few of the daily grind, time-sucking, repetitive tasks. You’ll swap these frequently.
You’ll lighten your mental load. You’re partner will step into a stronger role of involvement.
You’ll both get rewarded with time for self-care, time for adult friendships, and time for your personal passions.
Visibility = Value.
Unpaid + unseen labor IS work.
Fair Play Coaching + Facilitation is for those who:
Choose to say enough is enough. “Doing it all” isn’t sustainable or fun.
Believe that time is the most valuable resource any human has, no matter their gender.
Recognize their partner is capable of performing daily mental + emotional care tasks.
See communicating differently as the key to a healthy, engaging partnership.
Want to reclaim their right to be interesting separate from parenthood, partnership, or their profession.
Want more time for creativity, play, and fun, especially around personal passions + individual interests.
Join as a partnership.
Coach separately and facilitate all together.
“You are complicit in your own oppression when you willingly put yourself and your time second or last.”
Communicate differently.
Achieve a Fair Play partnership one conversation at a time.
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or hiring Amelia to speak?
One hour, half-day, or custom presentations available.
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Note: The Fair Play Method is a technique + tool, not therapy. Find a Certified Fair Play Facilitator and Licensed Therapist here.
